Modern Love: Why do we Get Married?

In a time when some researchers worry about a marriage crises, the tales in this problem of Modern Love, Paw’s fortnightly suggestions column, offer an alternative eyesight of connection. These young people are demonstrating how love can thrive in a variety of relationships, from a young couple who forms an unlikely tie on a subway platform to a young woman who is recovering from pediatric leukemia.

Whether they’re hooking up with everyday acquaintances, dating for sex and no necessarily much more, or living together before marrying, more American parents are thinking differently about their romantic contacts. The majority of Americans still consider union to be a desired social organization that provides legal benefits, including access to health comprehensive, and promotes happier and more secure lives for married people than their single or married counterparts. And despite these advantages, many of them acknowledge that the institution comes with some unpleasant downsides as well: married people ca n’t easily divorce and are expected to be sexually monogamous.

As the djinn of justice is suddenly out of the drink, different younger Americans are beginning to ask the question: Why do we find married? This change, in addition to a fundamental move toward personalization and the generous support of the #metoo movements, is introducing a new romantic paradigm that may alter how we approach setting up relationships. We may just expect that it will also encourage a more sincere and considerate strategy to long-term connections.